Thoughtful, Curious Spankee

Had catch up with a couple of feminist friends yesterday. Both lovely, open women with husbands, active sex-lives, grown-up kids, grandchildren and lifetime of experience.

One knew my secret and other didn't so told her. Neither 'got' it nor fancied it but were OK about it. It was interesting to discuss the journey of coming to terms with such ideas as a feminist and be understood. They felt that my tentative anecdotal hypothesis that men more likely to get what they want sexually, because they actually ask was probably true.

And yet again I discovered that if my friends were told I had a kink of this sort they would inevitably assume that I would get my kicks at the other end of the cane! Seems I'm easier to imagine as a Domme than a spankee! I have worked this out, and although I have met submissive women (not just spankees) who are assertive and strong, I can see it is hard to imagine such women wanting to be put over a knee or bent over for the cane. I think there is a delicious incongruity which adds to the excitement and eroticism. I'm aware of the cliche of the High Court Judge or powerful woman who enjoys the 'escape' from responsibility through age play or corporal punishment, but that's not it either, as I've had fantasy and thrilled at idea since childhood - it's been there whether I have personal power or not.

I've written a book of (non-spanking!) short stories - three of which were partly inspired by one of the friends and her experiences. I gave them both a copy of my tales, despite fact I knew from draft that the 'inspiration' didn't like the unromantic ending of one of stories she inspired! She's yet to read the one where central character with a similar experience to her attempts murder!

...is a well-spanked bottom.

My Cariad and I have been together a while, live in different cities, have various responsibilities and our time together is limited. Spanking like other aspects of sexuality tends to get subsumed by life in general and we have the spanking equivalent of the comfort of the double bed taking over from the hurlyburly of the chaise longue to misquote Mrs Campbell.

last night my Cariad and I arranged to meet for an evening out, knowing we'd be spending another night apart. I got thinking back to our early days and sent him a naughty email and (being real life) he didn't open it!

I told him of content and my thoughts and added a nostalgic twist to our evening. We always stop for a little kiss and cuddle before going our separate ways and did so as usual. Only this time I got a spanking as well.

I've written before about unslaked passion/delayed gratification.
http://suzeemoon.blog.co.uk/2005/12/04/in_praise_of_unslaked_lust~360342/
http://suzeemoon.blog.co.uk/2006/01/11/sex_is_great_but~463013/

Slaked lust, requited passion etc is wonderful, but so is the alternative when it is an added extra. Like a passionate kiss and cuddle in the car or a fumble on the way home it is exhilarating, sexy and makes you feel alive. It is also somehow very youthful and reminds me of how much fun it used to be to just kiss and cuddle and get weak-kneed.

We'd not spanked in the car for a few years and first time in his current car. Back seats can be a pain, but like the chaise longue, that's part of the charm. I realise that if we did not have regular opportunities for the comfort of the double bed, I would feel differently, but reawakening the memories of the chaise is definitely recommended!

Have I ever said that when I write spanking stuff I get fewer comments but more pages read?
Nothing from "Disgusted of Tumbridge Wells" so far...

I've been reading bits and pieces I've written over the years and had a look for spanking stuff in the Nancy Friday fantasy books. I like my own stuff as it reflects my taste (unsurprisingly) but nice to read other stuff. I love it when I hear the word 'spanking' unexpectedly or come across something in a book or on the box unexpectedly.

I saw some stff about Leonard Cohen on BBC 4 last night - His voice is quite mesmerising and something very erotic about that melanchony - wonder if he's a spanker...

I'm getting a bit lazy here, so thought I'd post a little something on my chosen specialist area...
It's from an experiential piece called 'Almost Role Play'

...and of course I ended up bent over the table with him smoothing my skirt, admiring the view and feel and using rulers, hairbrush and cane over my skirt. And as we both enjoyed the charge, we knew it was merely the opening gambit to the raising of my skirt and the lowering of my knickers for more ‘reinforcement’ of a lesson I’d followed well. There were some questions of factors deciding strokes of my skirt-clad bottom to begin, but somehow, maths got forgotten other than when he chose to tell me how many strokes to expect from one or other instrument.

I love being spanked over his knee and it is the most intimate and somehow ‘true’ way to be spanked, but bending over, especially having had my knickers taken down for the cane is the pinnacle of spanking eroticism. The lowering of one’s knickers raises a wonderful rush of excitement and fear that often leads to an almost involuntary protest and anxiety. And this, while imagining his complementary excitement, desire and determination as he slides down the material and uncovers his intended target.

Being bent over the table in heels and stilettos, with skirt up and knickers around my thighs I try to hold my position to the rain of strokes from hand, rulers and cane, aware of the erotic charge of my nervous compliance as he decides how I am to be spanked.

And there is a matching, but different thrill as I am held firmly to his side and under his arm in an intimate embrace, knowing I am about to be smacked very hard and will be unable to resist trying to wriggle away from the source of the erotic and painful smacks to my already-stinging bottom...

...and I didn't feel a thing!
http://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/2009/06/06/earthquake-hits-port-talbit-91466-23805180/

A minor earthquake has been felt by a number of homes, police said today.

Concerned residents in south Wales contacted the police shortly before 9pm last night after experiencing lights flickering and a tremor.

The British Geological Survey later confirmed there had been an earthquake with a magnitude of three with an epicentre just over six miles north east of Port Talbot.

A spokeswoman for South Wales Police said: “We had three reports yesterday evening. Members of the public from the Wild Mill and Sarn area of Bridgend reported feeling a tremor.

“The British Geological Survey confirmed an earthquake had occurred 10km northeast of Port Talbot with a magnitude of three.”

She added: “There were no reports of damage or injuries.”

A spokeswoman for the South Wales Fire and Rescue Service said they were informed about the earthquake by police but were not called out to assist any residents.

Cleaner Michelle Thomas said it was not the first earthquake the area has had this month.

The 36-year-old from Bryncethin, Bridgend, claims to have felt two other quakes earlier this month.

“Last night it was just a little tremor and a light flicker,” she said.

“It happened last week and the week before that so we have had three in the last month.

“I’m not bothered by it because I’ve been to Turkey and on the outskirts of earthquakes there. These ones are just little tremors.”

On the earthquake section of their website, the British Geological Survey said they had a report from one local resident describing “the whole house creaked and it felt like it moved”.

Another told them “the experience felt like a car had collided with the house”.

The website added: “This is the largest event to occur in this area since a magnitude 3.8 earthquake on 23 May 1975, approximately 7km (4.3 miles) southwest of Merthyr Tydfil.

“Historically, however, larger earthquakes, with magnitudes ranging from 4.9 to 5.2, have been known to occur to the west of this event, the last and largest of these being a magnitude 5.2 that occurred in 1906 close to Port Talbot.

“Known as the Swansea earthquake, this was one of the most damaging earthquakes in Britain in the whole of the 20th century.”

Somehow got into silly chat about Wild West Saloon Girls on a BBC messageboard thread after I failed to pick up clues for 'garters'.
There is something about the Wild West and the Saloon Girl look that seems both very sexy andd fertile for spanking scenarios - may be result of certain moments from Bonanza and John Wayne - What was it with him and Maureen O'Hara?
http://photobucket.com/images/john%20wayne%20spanking/

My Cariad and I have written a couple of stories based in Wild West and this is an extract from an unpublished one wot I rote featuring Saloon girls and their underpinnings

“As I was saying before I was so rudely interrupted…You two know the score…Lou will raise your skirts, ladies…and part your drawers for you…”

Once again Suzee and Kitty found themselves bent over the familiar table. This time they were side by side at Stan’s instructions “to afford a better view” to the “outraged citizens”. With a grin that made Suzee hope her blush went unnoticed Stan drawled that he’d been practising his backhand. Suzee and Kitty were drawn on to tip toes by a smirking Peg and Sadie pulling their wrists. All the girls knew the deputy liked to have a naughty bottom presented at just the right angle… This time no protest came from either woman.

At Stan’s nod and the collective intake of breath by the rapt audience, Lou raised Kitty’s skirts first. Lou knew she’d be made to pay for her choice but she felt Suzee deserved some reward for her bravery, despite her airs and graces. The whoop drew the distracted girl’s attention to her boss’s unexpected sudden nakedness! The haughty older girl was already bare-bummed! She wore what appeared to be long drawers, but were in fact merely frills tied above her knees. After her rude comments about her girls sometimes dispensing with their drawers, she was the one caught without her underwear! At one swoop the saloon-owner’s bare backside was on sudden and unexpected display to the delight of the punters.

Shaking with both nerves and suppressed laughter Lou raised Suzee’s layers of protective skirt and petticoats. No one wore as many layers of white cotton and lace as Suzee! As the pristine layers were raised an interested silence took over as the tops of her little boots and dark stockings came into view. The thin gauzy drawers just about covered her modesty and Suzee shook with trepidation as the gentle Lou undid the neat buttons and parting the drawers, slid them to one side so her round bottom was exposed to the now silent onlookers. As Suzee’s bottom was made visible and as vulnerable as Kitty’s, although a little more elegantly presented, the onlookers sighed once again at the sound of Stan unbuckling this belt. And Kitty and Suzee could not help but shiver in worried anticipation as they heard the belt slide though the loops of Stan’s Levis.

Stan debated with himself as he slid his belt through and clear of his dusty denims. Alternating his strokes between the girls had a certain charm. He remembered his enjoyment of such an ‘arrangement’ last time they’d both taken a public whupping. He was inclined to be merciful to Suzee though. She’d get it real hard all right, but as she was to take a second beating he thought he’d deliver the first, reasonably swiftly. Kitty’s totally bare bum made him grin, though! He was also willing to bet there was more going on than the girls were letting on…

...through old posts and found this para.

No idea why we have our 'kink', but not really bothered about that anymore. Like the perfect cup of tea, the sun on my back, chocolate, fabulous scenery, or the sea it simply works for me. And the pain is part of the pleasure.

That's all!

I have an idea for a story based on a housekeeper and based in present time, but wondering about the complexities of plausibility with current legislation and employee rights! It has to be present time and UK because it is the very implausibilty that will give it the tension. I need to find way of playing with theoretical non-consent within consent. She will have to have agreed, but expected it never to actual happen which gives space for subconscious and/or ambivalence to occur.
I am personally too PC to be comfortable with non-con even in fiction, but love the tension of reluctant consent which tends to be typical of my fantasies rather than straight submissive stuff.
The story is one on the backburner in my head. I have far more ideas than stories that are actually written. I have several unfinished, plus a few that are only a few paras or even a title so I don't forget about them.

Was talking about my Porthcawl pic as time capsule image and thought about this pic I had of my dad and his workmates, which I love. Dad is one with cap and hands in pockets.

p.s. I'm back! Holiday was fab and just what was needed!

Off on my hols for a while - Be good!
Suzee
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