I was listening to radio 4 this morning - Home Truths - and heard this wonderfully entertaining piece about a chap who had built a lighthouse at the side of a canal. (About 25 minutes in if you're interested and have 'Listen Again') I loved his style and humour and immediately decided I liked the guy. I also decided my partner would like the item and the bloke as would my friend G. It set me thinking about how and why we like people.

I am in the minority position of having fallen for my partner in cyber so it really was the sense of humour that we all seem to claim to be seeking that did it for me. And of course thoughts, attitudes amd beliefs also come out through writing if one is honest.

Luckily for my other half and me, we were quite happy with how the other looked as well. I am curious to know what level of looks incompatibility may have prevented the rest of the chemistry working, but will never know.
We are both certain that if we didn't have the chemistry we would have been friends.

I saw an interesting snippet on a fairly awful TV programme a while ago - it was meant to be about female sexuality - and they were looking into the whole attractiveness thing. Some of the women rated looks as more important than others. There is of course the notion that those of us with intelligence, taste, etc etc are not so shallow. It seemed though, that the most beautiful wanted equally beautiful partners. So those of us who rate other things more highly might just be settling for what we can get...not sure how good the research was, but interesting thought.