Prydwen's comments make perfect sense to me and I can understand that we all have our own history and our own sexuality.

Personally, I have no history of physical chastisement and for some reason (I know not what) the idea of spanking took on a dread, thrill and excitement. Whether unconscious sexuality or pre-sexuality at first I cannot label, but when I became consciously sexual the fascination was there and became sexualised.

I believe for me spanking is central to my sexuality, but it doesn't mean I have less mainstream sexuality and responses. Someone once described themselves as having dual sexuality and that is how I see it as well.

Of course I have given it lots of thought and exploration since my very late 'coming out'and ownership of what I see as my full nature. being a spankee is not the most central part of who I am, just of my sexuality. I am (hopefully!) a complete and complex person and it's nice to have claimed a part of me that has been denied for so long. Like for most of us my sexuality is not central to most of my everyday life, but it is good to have opportunities to explore issues around stuff that interests me and hopefully is of interest to others.

I had a bit of a surf and visited a spanking site for first time in ages.

Someone asked whether spanking was lovemaking. A rather nicely worded enquiry I thought. Naturally those who see it as non-sexual said 'No', but some (not all!) who saw it as sexual had rather narrow definition of sexuality in my personal opinion - On the lines that it was more foreplay than sex!

I hate the idea of foreplay! It is such a degrading way to see a marvellous range of gorgeous sexual activity and pleasure and builds up the assumption that the only true sex is traditional penetration. While I think penetrative sex is also fabulous, I don't actually see it as the pinnacle of sexuality, just part of the glorious range of options available.

I see spanking as lovemaking, because like kissing, cuddling and other forms of erotic play it can be complete in itself and/or lead to other sexual activity. And of course other sexual activity can lead to spanking!

I still believe the biggest sex organ is the brain.

Just writing some rubbish at five and wondering about any insomniacs, shift workers, early risers out in Blogland. Did you know working nights takes seven years off your life? I did a night shift on Thursday and caught up on some sleep on Friday , but found myself incredibly tired at about nine last night (Saturday) so had early night. I awoke at about four this morning so thought I'd potter for a while and have a little look around in Blogland...

As said it is frosty in Fairwater. The temperature appears to have dropped as predicted, but my house is still quite cosy.