by
suzeemoon
@ Monday, 18. Dec, 2006 - 19:25:26
Lovely to have so many readers, if somewhat shy ones. If anyone has any questions - Please ask. meanwhile for those new to my blog I thought I'd post something I did a while back - it's a questionnaire put together by a spanking site which I completed and have now updated.
How did you become interested in spanking?
have had fantasies since childhood
Who is your usual spanking partner?
My Cariad (Welsh for lover/beloved)
How, if at all, does a spanking lead to sex? Describe any intimacy that might or does occur.
Inevitable at least once if privacy and circumstances allow as it is so erotic. If privacy is limited (opportunist spanking) then although the spanking is completely erotic it doesn't lead to sex.
Have you ever been involved with spanking clubs?
No. Not at all interested, but don't feel particularly judgemental about such activities - Just not my thing.
Describe the kinds of individual(s) who you have punished or who have punished you.
First person was nice man who had nothing in common with me, except interest in spanking. This confused him and made him suspicious and so relationship dwindled and ended. Current partner is well-educated, witty professional man with whom I share deep relationship inclusive of spanking. He too had fantasised all his life and we found our tastes matched
Describe the kinds of people you would like to punish you or you would like to punish and what you would want them to do.
Don't like word 'punish' for a start...I'm interested in men who are intelligent and sensual and can see that spanking can sometimes be a naughty, fun 'quickie'; a part of the deepest, most affectionate love-making and the darkest part of shared sensuality. I am lucky to have found such a partner. I am momogomous in spanking as well as broader sexuality.
What instruments, if any, do you want to use or want your spanking partner to use when a punishment is administered?
There is something deeply erotic about spanking by hand over a partner's knee, especially if begun over clothing and ending on the bare by removal of layers. Hairbrush, ruler, slipper, paddles and canes all acceptable and I like partner to choose, but only as he gets to understand me and learn my limits
Think back to the first time that an instrument (a strap, belt, paddle, etc.) was introduced as part of a spanking session. Describe that spanking.
My first partner caned me, but the spanking itself is not a clear memory. I have described it thus: This knowledge was exciting but could I cope with the reality? Yes. But I enjoyed the memory more than the event. I have an indelibly printed recollection of driving to Aberystwyth to interview potential staff for a project being fully aware of my striped bottom and loving the incongruity of it. It was also very erotic.
What kinds of rituals or role-play, if any, do you and your spanking partner perform?
I don't 'do' role-play (so far) and have written about this if you want to know more. I like to be spanked simply because my partner wants to do so. I don't like full bratting (I have yet to tie shoelaces together and don't own a water pistol. I might just manage to throw a cushion if I have to do so...) but can 'tease' my way into a spanking.
Describe your ideal spanking fantasy.
Fantasy is very different from what I like in reality and I can encompass any 'traditional' fantasy that is no more fierce than a domestic or school caning. Don't like serious SM, or humiliation in fantasy or reality. Some more severity, audience and lack of consent part of some fantasy. Ideal scenario is teasing man into threatening to spank me, continuing to tease and getting spanked.
If you have ever been watched while you received or administered a spanking, please tell us who it was
Not interested in this in real life
Have you ever shared your spanking session experiences or the physical after-effects of the punishment with friends or acquaintances?
As I was exploring and writing about this side of me I am 'out' to several vanilla friends and have had a factual piece on spanking printed. My two closest friends (male and female) do not have a problem with this and we can joke about it. I am slowly coming out of this particular closet, but don't believe we need to see ourselves firstly in terms of our sexuality. I am also mindful that ex-partners and family do not have choice if one is too public on such matters. As someone who wants to make diverse sexuality more acceptable I struggle with this issue.
What were the circumstances that occurred the first time that you received or administered a bare-bottom spanking?
First partner a haze as stated. Second time private, but came after kissing and before conventional lovemaking.
Of all the times you administered or received a spanking, which one stands out most in your mind?
Private.
How much, if at all, is spanking a part of your B&D lifestyle or created a desire to explore more fully the B&D lifestyle?
Not sure what this means or whose definition of 'lifestyle' matters. I have no intention of 'playing' in public but am interested in swapping views with other people who share interest in spanking. I have posted on notice boards on spanking sites and write about spanking so see myself as part of 'spanking community' in one sense, but not more fully in 'lifestyle'
Have you ever played with toys or used sexual aids? If so, which ones and how did you use them?
I own vibrators; handcuffs and spanking implements.lol Work it out for yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you own or have you ever rented spanking videos
No. I did buy a DVD of "The Secretary" but we've not yet got round to watching it!
What other Internet spanking sites have you visited? Please list.
Various. Like the stories and pics on several. Actually used to join discussions at www.britishspanking.com
Describe any special memories of spanking or corporal punishment scenes in films, television programs, books or newspapers that contributed to your desire to become part of the scene.
Childhood memories of men spanking grown women in fifties films and TV shows.
Have you ever been involved with swing clubs?
No