I agree with the idea that we ought to be more open about our sexuality. I tend to hint and would guess that those people who may be like me will pick up on the comments. But why the shame. Does enjoying a spanked bum make me somehow less trustworthy and decent, someone whose judgement isn't of equal worth to someone who simply enjoys penises? I also wish I had been able to talk to a sane spanko years ago and it's great Suzee to read your postings which are obviously the work of an honest, intelligent, funny,decent human being.
p.s good luck with being the spanko JK Rowling

Thanks as ever to Timsuzi for support and kind words. I want to give full response so doing as blog entry. Interestingly I didn't actually mention shame, although Timsuzi assumes that is main emotion that was inhibiting me.

I guess in one way that discussing spanking feels a bit like discussing oral sex, buggery or the missionary position - a sexual preference that is private and doesn't particularly need discussing. On the other hand it is something that has now pervaded my life through the way I met my partner and through my writing.

I no longer feel shame, but have done so. But I think embarrassment has been more powerful. The whole liberal, feminist, not violence, equality ethos I hold dear has led to some confusion - I did actually understand internalised oppression! I've since thought about it,written about it, and moved on, but it takes getting used to.