I was chatting in pub with my 'nilla friend G and mentioned an unnamed acquaintance who was had been intrigued by my 'revelations' and started thinking about spanking stuff to the concern of his fiancee. I reassured G that it wasn't threatening as he was fantasising being on the receiving end rather than delivery. G wondered if that was less scary - a male showing so-called submissive tendencies could feel threatening if one has stereotyped views on gender roles. I realise that Dommes and male subs may have problems with assumptions, but hadn't thought about it quite in that way... It has set me thinking. In a non-kinky relationship I do wonder which hankering would be more disturbing...

I think so - Or perhaps it's just the way we do it...
Like other sex it can be terribly serious, terribly funny (never terrible so far!) or anything in between.

Today I just got the giggles. He actually slipped with the cane and caught me with a nasty stripe across my thigh. In fairness he did apologise, but then declared it didn't count and I got an extra one! I called him a very rude name and then got the giggles despite it hurting so much. I stated my intention to 'diss him in my blog' and was told I'd be sorry because he'd read it But by then we were both laughing - I still got my full quota though, and he didn't make any more mistakes...