...No it's not one of my mad lists to throw the ads or tags. They really are connected!
I've just emailed my Cariad and we've been talking about reading. He's been reading women authors since meeting me, so I gave him potted version of my dialogue with timsuzi. Naturally my American spellchecker questioned timsuzi but thought Ms Jardine might be a sardine! I thought it would amuse timsuzi - It amused me!

List of Paraphilias

List (including American spellings) courtesy of Wikipedia.

The definition of various sexual practices as paraphilias has been met with opposition. Advocates for changing these definitions stress that, aside from "paraphilias" with a criminal element, there is nothing inherently pathological about these practices; they are undeserving of the stigmatism associated with being "singled out" as such. Those who profess such a view hope that, much as with the removal of homosexuality from the DSM (see homosexuality and psychology), future psychiatric definitions will not include most of these practices.

Note: This article needs some clean-up. Many terms have been represented incorrectly. Terms with the -philia suffix refer to conditions in which the person's primary sexual interest involves the stimulus or situation mentioned. Each term with the -lagnia suffix refers to any action involving the stimulus or situation. For example, someone who is consistently sexually excited by feces would have coprophilia; any sexual act involving feces, even by someone for whom that is not a primary interest, would be coprolagnia.

* Abasiophilia: love of (or sexual attraction to) people who use leg braces or other orthopaedic appliances
* Acrotomophilia: love of (or sexual attraction to) amputees
* Agalmatophilia: sexual attraction to statues or mannequins or immobility
* Algolagnia: sexual pleasure from pain
* Amaurophilia: sexual arousal by a partner whom one is unable to see due to artificial means, such as being blindfolded or having sex in total darkness. (See: sensory deprivation)
* Andromimetophilia: love of women dressed as men
* Apodysophilia: desire to undress, see also nudism
* Apotemnophilia: desire to have (or sexual arousal from having) a healthy appendage (limb, digit, or male genitals) amputated
* Aquaphilia: arousal from water and/or in watery environments, including swimming pools
* Aretifism: sexual attraction to people who are without footwear, in contrast to retifism
* Asphyxiophilia: sexual attraction to asphyxia; also called breath control play; including autoerotic asphyxiation; see medical warnings
* Autogynephilia: love of oneself as a woman (although it is highly controversial whether this exists as described; see article for further discussion)
* Biastophilia: sexual pleasure from committing rape
* Coprophilia: sexual attraction to (or pleasure from) feces
* Crush fetish: sexual arousal from seeing small creatures being crushed by members of the opposite sex, or being crushed oneself
* Dacryphilia: sexual pleasure in eliciting tears from others or oneself
* Diaper fetishism: sexual arousal from diapers
* Emetophilia (a.k.a. vomerophilia): sexual attraction to vomit
* Ephebophilia (a.k.a. hebephilia): sexual attraction towards adolescents
* Eproctophilia: sexual attraction to flatulence
* Exhibitionism: sexual arousal through sexual behavior in view of third parties (also includes the recurrent urge or behavior to expose one's genitals to an unsuspecting person, known as indecent exposure)
* Fetishism: is the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement. Examples include:

Balloon fetishism -- breast fetishism -- foot fetishism (podophilia) -- fur fetishism -- leather fetishism -- lipstick fetishism -- medical fetishism -- panty fetishism -- robot fetishism -- rubber fetishism -- shoe fetishism -- smoking fetishism -- spandex fetishism -- transvestic fetishism (see below)

* Forniphilia: love of making furniture from humans in bondage
* Frotteurism: sexual arousal from the recurrent urge or behavior of touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person.
* Galactophilia: sexual attraction to human milk or lactating women
* Gerontophilia: sexual attraction towards the elderly
* Haemophilia: sexual attraction involving blood (either on a sex partner or attractive member of the opposite sex or the liquid itself)
* Harpaxophilia: sexual arousal from being the victim of a robbery or burglary
* Hematolagnia: sexual attraction to blood
* Hybristophilia: sexual arousal to people who have committed crimes, in particular cruel or outrageous crimes
* Infantilism: sexual pleasure from dressing, acting, or being treated as a baby
* Klismaphilia: sexual pleasure from enemas
* Lust murder: sexual arousal through committing murder
* Macrophilia: sexual attraction to larger people and large things (including larger body organs such as breasts and genitalia)
* Maiesiophilia: sexual attraction to childbirth or pregnant women
* Masochism: is the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer.
* Microphilia: sexual attraction to small things and things of smaller size
* Mysophilia: sexual attraction to soiled, dirty, foul or decaying material
* Necrophilia: sexual attraction to corpses
* Necrozoophilia: sexual attraction to the corpses or killings of animals (also known as necrobestiality)
* Nepiophilia: the same as infantophilia sexual attraction to children between the age of 0 - 3 yrs.
* Pedophilia: sexual attraction to prepubescent children (also spelt paedophilia in some countries)
* Pictophilia: inability to become sexually aroused except through the use of pictorial pornography
* Plushophilia: sexual attraction to stuffed toys or people in animal costume, such as theme park characters
* Pyrophilia: sexual arousal through watching, setting, hearing/talking/fantasizing about fire.
* Sadism: is the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting.
* Sitophilia: sexual arousal from food
* Telephone scatologia: being sexually aroused by making obscene telephone calls
* Teratophilia: sexual attraction to deformed or monstrous people
* Transformation fetish: sexual arousal from depictions of transformations of people into objects or other beings
* Transvestic fetishism: is a sexual attraction towards the clothing of the opposite gender (also known as transvestitism)
* Trichophilia: love (or sexual arousal) from hair
* Urolagnia: sexual attraction to urine
* Vorarephilia: sexual attraction to being eaten by, and/or eating, another person or creature
* Voyeurism: sexual arousal through watching others having sex (also includes the recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities, see peeping tom)
* Xenophilia: sexual attraction to foreigners (in science fiction, can also mean sexual attraction to aliens)
* Zoophilia: emotional or sexual attraction to animals
* Zoosadism: the sexual enjoyment of causing pain and suffering to animals.

I couldn’t sleep so thought I’d have a little blog…

Been thinking about spanking – For a change! I do realise it’s rather weird and that’s just what I was thinking – It’s rather weird…

I was reliving my lovely day with my Cariad and realise that spanking is a strange thing to get excited about, if not that unusual (see various comments on mainstreaming - here or on my site)

I actually don’t like pain as a rule. I am a total wimp about it at times. I had a headache recently – first time in ages and I was a bit pathetic. There is a word for those turned on by pain itself (it’s a paraphilia – posh word for what is usually called fetish). The word is algolagnia. Some people into spanking and/or BDSM are also into the pain itself, but for others (like me) the pain is part of it, but not the thing itself.

Non-painful spanking can bring pleasure, as it is a stimulating and sensual thing that works for some. I like it too - the way I like various activities that are sensuous and feel good. Spanking, like stroking, kissing, rubbing and massaging can feel wonderfully sexy and ‘more-ish’. And I adore it! But much as I love it, I wouldn’t give up the painful spankings, which to me are the ‘real thing’

As said elsewhere I don’t get ‘punished’ but there is something very erotic for me about having my Cariad ‘in charge’ during spankings. Knowing he will hurt me and judge the level of pain gives the non-painful spankings and every apparently casual touch ‘there’ a charge like no other.

Some spankees enjoy the pain at the time and others hate the pain, but like where the pain or its endurance takes them. Others I guess must be like me and feel some ambivalence about it (I’ve written about ambivalence on my website – link on my profile page).

For whatever reason, the whole idea of spanking fascinates and excites me as it has done since childhood. I love the whole idea of it and the pain just has to be part of it, because the idea of the pain from the spanking has always been part of the fascination.