This is one of the perennial topics among spankos and BDSMers - Who really has the power? it is said that the spankee/sub does because s/he sets the limits. I can see that but I find it a bit simplistic - too much like saying women hold power in heterosexual sex because usually they are the ones to set limits. And I do know there are rampant women and principled and/or less interested/disinterested men out there!

Anyway - To hear some spankers/Doms/Tops talk you'd think they were charity workers! While it's great that they are sensitive to their partners' needs, I find the line that it's all about the spankee/sub/bottom less that honest. If one is a kink and one's partner isn't then obviously a favour is being given and that is truly caring and what good relationships are sometimes about. If a couple have a matching kink then like good sex, the power passes back and forth for mutual pleasure.

Dollydagger joked about my story so I though it a good idea to reiterate that like all good kinks I absolutely believe in safe, sane and consensual. It is fun to play with power issue in sex, spanking and writing though.

I am attaching a later piece of story I posted yesterday, as it reflects well on the power issue...

Christine told herself that she couldn’t help showing her insubordination every now and then, as Jonah was such an old fart sometimes. And she’d always been a bit slapdash at work. She accepted the sly, instant slaps her naughty remarks and looks inevitably encouraged and in retrospect savoured the formal corporal punishment her boss would inflict for her misdemeanours.
She told herself it was a favour she did the old scroat, allowing him to smack her arse and she was charitable enough to ensure her underwear would make the old goat realise what he was missing… She knew he wanted to fuck her but was too pussy-whipped by the dreaded Jan to even admit it. Besides it wasn’t as if she’d let him but trying to distract him with her underwear made the spankings more exciting. Jonah’s blood pressure definitely went up when he lifted her skirts that time and found she was wearing stockings and suspenders! And who’d have thought that hold-up stockings and no knickers looked so smart but avoided a visible pantie line?

Oh! And in case anyone is in any doubt - I think spanking is extremely sexy! Another evergreen topic is whether spanking is sexual...