My Cariad and I are not part of the BDSM or spanking scene as such although we lurked on certain sites and have read how others 'do' it so have the lingo. Like people everywhere we see ourselves as outside the stereotypes. Interestingly, the spankos, BDSMers I have met don't necessarily fit the stereotype either.

Subs/bottoms/spankees do tend to be of two broad churches. Those that are submissive and active in wanting to please their partner and those that 'brat' - Bratting is a way of earning a spanking or punishment. In reality and cyber waterpistols, cushions (for throwing) and shoelaces (for tying) may feature. While denying being a brat (although acknowledging brats often deny their brattishness) I will admit to teasing and sauciness.

As stated elsewhere, I don't get 'punished' - My Cariad spanks me because to do so turns him on, and being at the receiving end does the same for me. Our fantasies like those of most spankos tend to be about punishment, but in reality simply the power exchange and spanking works best for us.

So today we were having a cuddle on the sofa and I wondered if we'd be more comfortable upstairs and he couldn't make up his mind - Not an unusual occurrence. The 'Dithering Dom' has been established from such moments. So (as so often) I teased him about his 'Domliness' and inability to make simple decisions, so he decided I was the sarky sub.

As always he was able to get me from the giggles and cheekiness to trying to escape and that was just with his hand. Apparently sarkiness merits the use of his belt and as so often happens, there is a sexy, painless glow, followed by glow and uncertainty as pain builds up and then pain that makes me want to avoid or escape, but also that makes me happy I didn't.

And of course it wouldn't be complete without extensive use of the canes, although I think one of them definitely needs replacing, as it's looking as battered as I sometimes do!