When I was single and looking I did once have a letter from a man in North Wales with his own dungeon!
I was joking with lonemum about dungeons (as you do!)and was reminded of a letter I once received.When I was single nearly twenty years ago I decided to advertise to meet someone who may share my kink. While I was open-minded and well-read around sexuality I had no experience of discussing my kink and very scratchy (no pun intended!) idea of what I thought of as sado-masochism. The following is a fictionalised version of a response I got to an ad hoping to meet a fellow-spanko. in my short story felicity is vanilla (non-kinky)but very broad-minded and she works in the sexual advisory field.
Mandy found it strange to equate those words with herself despite the fact she’d so carefully chosen them – and that was before she got the replies!
Receiving that first large, plain brown envelope terrified and excited her. In theory as the advertiser she was in control. No one knew who she was and she would decide what to do with her replies, but having letters from unknown men arrive on her doormat felt very strange. The large brown envelope contained a collection of assorted envelopes addressed to the PO Box and also her ‘unique PIN from ‘Explorations’’. She sat and pondered the mystery of her assorted envelopes and decided to open them in the order they were placed in the larger envelope.The first one was neatly word processed on a good quality long white envelope – an L.W.E. – she had a vague recollection that L.W.E.’s were the things that were supposed to contain the glad tidings when you won a competition. She wondered idly if this was a winner as she carefully slit the envelope.
The letter was also word processed on a couple of standard white A4 sheets. As she read the contents in growing astonishment and mirth she wondered if the letter, too, was the writer’s ‘standard’. It contained no reference to her ad but waxed enthusiastically about the writer’s fully equipped dungeon, discretion and secluded location. ‘Dungeon Maestro’ explained he was a member of his local bondage/sub-dom/s-m group and was fully into safe sex and safe word codes. As an educator in the field it was good to know that Dungeon Maestro was so sensible and she knew enough about the fetish scene to know that this was not unusual. She suspected that her correspondent was likely to be a less risky ‘date’ in many ways than many men met more conventionally. She did, however, wonder if his other ‘pen pals’ would have realised this. It could be pretty frightening if she was less knowledgeable. He hardly sounded like the ‘fascinating, friendly fellow’ she requested though. His willingness to be sub or dom gave her a choice she chose not to exercise. Other than the odd bite or scratch or occasional quick, rough fuck she liked her sex leisured and pain free. The idea of bossing around a man and wearing sexy underwear and boots had some appeal but she couldn’t really see herself as a successful dominatrix. Typically the ‘sexpert’ she started to wonder why he went to the trouble of writing to advertisers like herself who gave no hint of such an interest. It seemed a waste of effort and money even if it was a standard letter as she suspected (the only personal bit being the ‘Dear Felicity’ at the top). That was a strange idea – a standard sexual fetish blind-date letter! It sure beat her standard C.V. she thought to herself. Perhaps there were advertisers out there who shared his desires but were not brave enough to advertise their fantasies as freely as Dungeon Maestro. She wondered idly how often he struck lucky. With his willingness to ‘top’ or ‘bottom’ he doubled his chances she supposed, when compared with a correspondent who had only one string to his bow rather than D.M.’s two. Re-reading her ad she suddenly wondered if there were people out there who equated feminists as dominatrix – Surely not?! One to check out at work perhaps…
As those of you who are familiar with my history will know I've not been an 'out'and active spanko until fairly recently. My tentative approach to find a like-minded lover resulted in meeting a lovely vanilla man and a marvellous thirteen-year relationship, so my forays into this world are relatively recent, but I am doing my best to make up for lost time.
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Thank you to all my readers,
Suzee
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