just been listening to Radio 4 and aware of seasons of programmes on sexual issues. I've posted the following on a BBC R4 messageboard:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/mbradio4/F2766774
The homepage to the season is:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/arts/sexuality.shtml

Just been listening to Front Row and want to be part of debate on sex, but having found the site "Sex Lives of Us" highlighting the various programmes, I couldn't see an obvious place for reflections on theme. I have therefore decided to write here.

I'm interested in issue of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submissiveness, sadism, masochism) as a broad church of interest to many. It occurred to me that it is in the position that male homosexuality occupied post-Wolfenden and after a degree of acceptance - A strange mix of the absurd and the threatening.

While we are right to be concerned about portrayals of sexual violence, some of us who enjoy certain erotic tastes and never frighten the horses or upset the servants would not wish to be labelled as dangerously deviant.

While I believe a third of women in one survey admitted to submissive fantasies, the caricature of 'S&M' we see tends to be the Dominatrix and submissive male. While Dommes certainly exist so do Doms. Perhaps that is too threatening? And yet stuff around spanking of females does seem to be out there, but it is often females making the suggestive comments.

BDSM is not of course 'taboo' - in it's milder form it gets into romantic fiction and (usually stereotypically) gets into modern dramas, but would we trust 'people like that' with our children? with vulnerable adults? in the Police Force?

Takes me back to my first posting here...
http://suzeemoon.blog.co.uk/?tag=first