As written elsewhere, I prefer idea of sexplay to foreplay as I think most sex is far too interesting and too much fun to play second fiddle to any particular act. That said, there is a poit that one suspects the kissing and cuddling and touching is possibly leading somewhere in particular...
As my Cariad is as focussed on this spanking thing as me, there is a tendency for it to be somewhat central to our sex life. Non-spanking sexuality is the exception rather than the norm. This week we have had two lovely afternoons - One of non-spanko vanilla sex and one that included spanking, caning and a little light-to-medium flogging.
I realised that I can tell the way my lover is thinking by his attitude to my clothing! He is always very interested in what is under my clothing, but with vanilla on his mind he is more eager to remove items. As part of the fun and pleasure of spanking is working with the layers, he is less eager to have things out of the way, when contemplating such activities.
Some into spanking (like those into the joys of other sex) like nudity. My Cariad and I love the contrast of a skirt or nightdress and knickers for variety and suspense and the pleasure of a staged approach. Being spanked or caned over clothing that is to be rearranged and/or removed is part of the fun and excitement.
My Cariad is thoughtful in all sexual activity, so while the removal of clothing when contemplating 'straight' sex can thoughtful and teasing, there is something very deliberate about the casual hand inside the knickers being removed, followed by the casual straightening of the skirt or nightie that tells me what it is that is on the erotic menu...
2008-06-06 @ 20:45