Got into some interesting dialogue re mainstreaning of BDSM and how common etc due to Mosley court case.
This Guardian article seemed balanced to me:
http://tiny.cc/crimeandpunishment
One of the things that came up in discussion was people discussing BDSM to discomfort of others. To me, while I wouldn't wish to deny my kink, I do not believe it appropriate to cause upset - I think it is a matter of manners. And I can see that discussing things that make people uncomfortable can be abusive as well as rude. My attitude to spanking and BDSM conversations is same as to straight sex - Should be sensitive to others and beware 'too much information'