Naively when I was single and looking to date among spankos I and certain moaning 'it's not fair' men thought I'd be inundated - Not exactly...

Friday, 10th September 2004
There are a lot of disenchanted men out there who are finding it difficult to find women who regularly moan at BSC and I understand that non-professional parties are rather under-subscribed by women. I’m not having a moan, but just want to say that women have to make a considerable effort as well.

I have found that only wanting to be intimate with single men has been seen as discriminatory and downright picky by men married to vanilla partners. I absolutely don’t have a problem with men or women getting spanking and/or sex elsewhere – I just don’t want to be the one providing it!

Being a polite sort I have responded to over a hundred and fifty messages, most of whom don’t write back or stop writing with no explanation. The only message that went unanswered by me was from someone who chose to insult me. I have told a reasonable proportion of men that I believe we have little in common, and some men on further reflection have been polite enough to tell me “Thanks, but no, thanks”, which I appreciate. I’ve been told this sudden silence is also typical in vanilla cyber.

I have also provided lots of information to both promote myself as a writer and as a single spankee looking to meet people. I have also placed thoughtful and detailed ads in various places, so respondents should know what to expect – To paraphrase someone else’s witticism (Thanks Daihard!) I don’t want to be trotted around Merthyr or suspended from the Newport Transporter Bridge!

As I’ve said I’m not complaining, but pointing out that meeting people is a challenge for all of us.