Had catch up with a couple of feminist friends yesterday. Both lovely, open women with husbands, active sex-lives, grown-up kids, grandchildren and lifetime of experience.
One knew my secret and other didn't so told her. Neither 'got' it nor fancied it but were OK about it. It was interesting to discuss the journey of coming to terms with such ideas as a feminist and be understood. They felt that my tentative anecdotal hypothesis that men more likely to get what they want sexually, because they actually ask was probably true.
And yet again I discovered that if my friends were told I had a kink of this sort they would inevitably assume that I would get my kicks at the other end of the cane! Seems I'm easier to imagine as a Domme than a spankee! I have worked this out, and although I have met submissive women (not just spankees) who are assertive and strong, I can see it is hard to imagine such women wanting to be put over a knee or bent over for the cane. I think there is a delicious incongruity which adds to the excitement and eroticism. I'm aware of the cliche of the High Court Judge or powerful woman who enjoys the 'escape' from responsibility through age play or corporal punishment, but that's not it either, as I've had fantasy and thrilled at idea since childhood - it's been there whether I have personal power or not.
I've written a book of (non-spanking!) short stories - three of which were partly inspired by one of the friends and her experiences. I gave them both a copy of my tales, despite fact I knew from draft that the 'inspiration' didn't like the unromantic ending of one of stories she inspired! She's yet to read the one where central character with a similar experience to her attempts murder!
