I've been browsing elsewhere as well as having conversations with others and have become aware of something rather new to me. It appears that male spankers who find spanking sexual appear to be amazingly keen on their female playmates' sexual fulfilment. This is non-scientific and absolutely anecdotal and based on chat. It has got me thinking though.

As said elsewhere, there is a significant minority of folk into spanking and similar for whom it appears not to be sexual. I and many others however feel somewhat differently. Seeing spanking as sexual does not necessarily mean always overt sexual behaviour accompanying spanking - simply acknowledging it as erotic.

Anyway - back to those who do find it erotic - it seems that some male spankers get a real buzz from their partners' excitement, apparently still regardless on whether it is acted upon or not depending on circumstances and relationships. If appropriate they appear to be happy to provide direct sexual stimulation regardless of receipt of similar attentions. I find this very intriguing.

I can see that in terms of psychological eroticism - head sex- rather than straight physical equivalent, giving pleasure makes sense. But there does appear to be a possible selfless component to this, hence the intrigue.

Those I know who are into spanking are totally into consent only and usually the mantra of 'safe' sane, consensual' which is as it should be. Fantasy, however, for those on giving or receiving end of such actions is more often than not non-consensual and usually 'punishment'. I wonder if the reassurance of the spankee's sexual enjoyment is a balance and distancing from the fantasy - a reassurance that despite the darker elements of the fantasy, on the whole spankers are nice, considerate people? Or are sexually motivated spankers just very considerate people?;D

My tentative thesis is based on Male/female combination of Spanker and spankee - no idea of other combinations as not had the conversations...