This is a huge issue in Spanko World. Some see it as non-sexual and get some sort of emotional, cathartic or sensual 'hit' or an endorphin high and enjoy it in a different way. I can sort of understand, but suspect some (and I do mean some, not all) may be kidding themselves - especially when they have a good reason to see it as a non-sexual act because of their particular circumstances or belief system.
For me it is sexual, not because I inevitably follow spanking with actual sex (it's a great idea, but not mandatory![]()
) but because I find the idea sexually exciting and thinking about spanking is sexually arousing for me.
I was thinking about this the other day and had new perspective. Something I read a while ago made me realise that I (and I assume loads of other spankos) may have conditioned myself into my sexual connection by positively reinforcing idea of it being sexual.
Before I was sexually aware I found idea of spanking exciting. I had no experience, there was a thrill at idea. I would think about spanking and feel excited, but in a vague way. Only after I became sexually active did I choose to make spanking a sexual fantasy and as it was used as a fantasy I was 'rewarded' by the thoughts with sexual satisfaction. I therefore reinforced the idea that it was sexy because not only was it exciting, the thoughts became associated with sexual satisfaction.
So while for those who see it as non-sexual but satisfying in other ways, then I assume the connection with sexual satisfaction is perhaps not there. If spanking is 'satisfying' like bungee jumping, running a marathon or hang gliding it is non-sexual.
Also perhaps on the other hand, if one is into bungee jumping, running a marathon or hang gliding one could perhaps (and possibly some do)get a sexual thrill from the activities by incorporating them into fantasy leading to sexual satisfaction...
Miss-Anthropy
i always saw spanking as not just a disciplinary action, but as an act made to assert who is the dominant person in a situation.

whether it is a parent and child, or a partner who is turned on by their partner asserting their dominance. it is not the nature of the act that is explicit, but the frame of reference in which we choose to hang it.